Human-beings are from mud

I always believe that; if “Human-beings are made from mud”, our bodies should have ability to mold from one shape to another. Sound silly isn't it? but its not about forming our total appearance to another human being, its about re-shaping our bodies to its real appearance. 
As our bodies are the only companion which will be with us for our entire lives, we should take good care of it.

I am not a physical education expert or a dietitian; I believe that the shapes of our bodies are the result of our daily lifestyles and discipline. Had a balanced body through out my 21 years of footballing, but after the retirement, the active lifestyle was changed, and I was feeling the changes of physical appearance and expanding cloth sizes. After few months, a puffy face and an onion body was the result. I was believing that the life was so busy with office, family . but apart from that my habits changed to odd time meals and fizzy drinks. During the period; I usually take one RedBull and five cans of Coca-Cola daily and Jugos and Ice creams were sometimes added more to the intake. Furthermore, the exercising were avoided from daily schedules to sleep or watch TvSeries on bed after works. After six or more years with these behaviors, my body weight rise to 92 kgs, neck size 17 and waist size 36. 

                                 
At the beginning of 2013, I decided to fight against intruded calories which made me another man, and started making plans and consulted different gym instructors about getting fit. Talking to different experts made me confused and found out that they had different approaches on weight losing and it is difficult to find out who is right. Therefore, I thought not to handover my body to them, but to make my own research and plans to tackle the problems.
                                       
Before making a plan, I knew that I cannot go back to my 20's because my body is over 40. Therefore my first reference was to understand the physical fitness approaches for human bodies over 40. 

                                   

After the research from the references, I made plans to get rid of some behaviors, because I understand that the changes of behaviors will make it a habit. Therefore, I made Fizzy drinks intake to nil and made a home setup for my workouts. It was intended to start with 4 sets of dumbbells and to increase the equipments later for more intense workouts after the trimming down. And started another research on most appropriate workouts and sequences for better results.
First; I made some reference on workouts with dumbbells, to understand the basics and effect. 

And made some references on other exercises from which I can make weekly plans to whole body.
 

The planing started in January 2013 and the workouts phase commenced in September 2013. Intended target was to reduce 30kg within 3 months. The basic approach was set as 80% effort to diets & 20% effort to workouts.  Furthermore, I assumed that a intense transformation effort may effect my face and neck muscles, therefore, I had another research on facial toning.      

When I started the workouts, I knew my body was carrying more fat than it should have and I need to reduce it by decreasing intakes with a manner which do not effect health and everyday life.  I have seen many friends and others trying to control intakes by comparing with workout schedules. If they workout they eat more and if not, they eat less. I don't believe that method dieting for over weights, because I believe when we are over weight, we should make a habit of minimizing intakes lower than the daily intake needed for our body. 

At the end of 2013, my body weight reduced from 91 kg to 71 kg and neck size changed from 17 inch to 15.5 inch, and waist size reduced from 36 to 31. 

January 2014 was started with the achieved target, And I have plans to make a bit mass body after 2014. the target is to maintain in 75kg average. Therefore, I have joined a local gym :-)

SEARCHING FOR REAL HAPPINESS

As a person who lived more than halfway through a life of an average human being, I have experienced happiest moments and grieving times. After all I came to know that the most common need for all human beings are happiness. We human being was consider happiness as something which comes in us from outside. 

From childhood on, most of us heard that happiness on earth is but a gift of fickle chance, and they never heard of any teaching telling them about their obligation to use this life on earth in such a way that it becomes a sources of constant joy. 

Today when I visited one of the island and was on island hopping, I have seen a boy climbing a tree with continuous failed efforts and when he reached his destined point, His expression with happiness shows the satisfaction. We all who seek true happiness in life can learn a lesson from this boy. Here you see a human being that has found his happiness, and if you will not seek to find your own the same way as this boy, you shall forever hunger after happiness.
I believe that Almighty Allah has sent us to this earth with a body, soul and a mind to control our emotions and behavior. Emotions are the source of energy we generate from our mind to express and feel the happiness or misery from us. Therefore, we have the ability to seek hell or heaven from this world & for the world after.
We humans are sent to this earth with uniqueness, even the most identical twins are not same, they have different footprints or fingerprints. I believe this uniqueness is expanded through the way we think and behave. Though with this differences, we all seek happiness as the way of life.
Some cannot imagine greater happiness than merely being able to feed and cloth their family without continual worry, others think the greatest happiness would be to live in royal castles and to travel in a golden couch,   others to find it by seeking fame and honors, high positions and renown.
I have came across with people who believe that they would be happy if they could only gain the love of just the person they adore, and have seen some who consider it as achieving a certain goal. While there are very few who seek nothing more than being free of constant worries about their daily needs and wants. For my amazement I came to know that, when these people acquired all these things could never escape admitting to themselves that, in the end, there still is something lacking in their lives and their happiness was never complete.

Therefore, I strongly believe that the happiness is your own creation from your ability to control your chaos of emotions effected from your outside world. 

Buying the book "Shahih Muslim"

Year 2012 might be a year with lots of books released on current affairs and coup in Maldives, with live TV coverages. During this September when Sheik Hussein Rasheed Ahmed inaugurated his Dhivehi translation of Shahih Muslim, I intended to buy the book on the inauguration night where the price was 100 MVR lower than the original price. But with the busy office works resulted to lose the book in discount rate. Later I found that the book is available in Sheik’s bookshop, but I had no information of the address. Therefore, I planned to buy the book on a weekend where I may have enough time to probe all over Male’ for the shop.

With a plan to find the bookshop, I hit the road to purchase some foodstuffs listed from home.  While doing the weekly shopping, I asked a shopkeeper (black veiled woman) whether she knows the shop of sheik Rasheed. Her face paled to red and I saw the anger on her eyes through the eye glasses.

She answered “don’t ask me about him”.

Surprisingly, I asked why?

She replied “look what he has wrote in his last book”.

“That’s what I am going to buy!” I answered to her.

Her anger seem increasing and another lady who was buying some food items joined her and said, “in that book I couldn’t understand anything, that MDP man do not know anything about Islam”.

Then I realized what happened here, it is not the book. 

So I asked the ladies, did you read the whole book or do you know Arabic? How can you prove the book is wrong? They stayed quite with anger on their faces.

May be these women have political view contradict with MDP, may be they are better Muslims who pray 5 times a day but I think they have envy on other Muslims on political interest. But I was surprised to see them criticize the book while they cannot prove the mistakes in the translations.

Anyway on the way out, a boy guided me the address and name of the bookshop, Risala Bookshop is situated in front of Novelty Bookshop in Fareedhee Magu. I bought some more books along with Shahih Muslims. I may read the book and placed in my rack for further references, but I still feel pity on the mentality of our people. Jealousy, envy and hatred among one another without any proper evidence or purpose. That they even do not know they are killing religious values on doing so.

Changing women

When Fatima, who is in her early 40s and has been married for more than a decade, was seeing someone else. Actually, more than one person. It started with an old friend, whom she began meeting every several months for long conversations and coffee. Then she began giving herself permission to flirt with, kiss, and further. she make out with men she met on official trips to islands and abroad. She loves her husband but she also loves the unexpected thrill of meeting someone new.
Nafisah, 34, a marketing manager in private company and mother of two continued her affair with a co-worker started innocently enough. She liked his company. "We would go to lunch together and gradually it started feeling like we were dating." At New Year’s Eve, Nafisah asked her husband of 10 years to join her at the office party held in a resort, and when he declined, the co-worker stepped in. "We just had so much fun together and we laughed together and it just grew and grew and grew until ... he kissed me. And I loved it."
The reality is this: Maldivian women today have more opportunity to fool around than ever; They probably use technology to facilitate their affairs, and if they get caught, they're almost as likely to plead for sympathy from family court. Finally, if they do separate from their husbands, women, who are educated or have a land in Male' to rent out, get able to make a go of it. Pay the bills, keep at least partial custody of the children, and remarry if they want to. "It was just so ruinous for a woman to be caught in adultery in past times, you had to be really driven or motivated to do it," says Peter D. Kramer, the author of "Should You Leave?" "Now you can get away with it, there's a social role that fits you." which is realy true in our society too.

Where do married women find their boyfriends? At work; mostly, nearly 40 percent of Maldivian women who live in Male’, work outside the home, up from about 20 percent in 1984 (unofficial statistic). Women intersect with more people during the day than they used to. They go to coffee shops, go shopping in groups and, presumably, participate more in flirtatious chatter. If infidelity is an odds game, then the odds are better now than they used to be that a woman will accidentally bump into someone during the workday, at least momentarily, interests her more than her husband does. There's a more subtle point embedded in here as well: women and men bring their best selves to work, leaving their bad behavior and marital resentments at home with their dirty sweatpants. At work, "we dress nicely. We think before we speak. "And many people spend more time out in the world than with their families. I think sometimes people have the idea that an affair will protect the marriage." They get a self-esteem boost during work hours and don't rock the boat at home. "In some paradoxical sense this may be a respite, a little break from the marriage."

The realities of the over programmed life make it easier, not harder, to fool around. like trying to stay awake and get an Internet connection and a reliable cell phone. Samima’s husband has no idea she has six e-mail addresses, in addition to an account specifically for messages from her boyfriend Adan Naeem, a customer-service rep in Tourist shop. Uses e-mail to flirt with Samima, then turns to her instant messenger or cell phone when it comes to setting up a rendezvous. "Text messaging is safer than e-mailing," says Samima, 36, who's been married for eight years.

Internet has full load of sites which is commonly use for flirting. there are sites specificaly for the people who want to cheat their spouses. Since you don't have to leave the house, online romances have a special appeal for married women.

In our society most women and men use internet for flirting or dating.

(This Article is not intended to show gender difference but to understand how our society is changing) (refference:www.nomarriage.com, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus)